No.7172
<35 - MASTER THE ART OF TIMING
From Robert Greene:
>"Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time."
>"It is critical to recognize the spirit of the times. Always look two steps ahead, find the wave that will carry you to power, and ride it." [Paraphrased]
>"If the inner turmoil caused by our emotions tends to make time move faster, it follows that once we control our emotional responses to events, time will move much more slowly. This altered way of dealing with things tends to lengthen our perception of future time, opens up possibilities that fear and anger close off, and allows us the patience that is the principal requirement in the art of timing."
>"There are three kinds of time for us to deal with; each presents problems that can be solved with skill and practice. First there is long time: the drawn-out, years-long kind of time that must be managed with patience and gentle guidance. Our handling of long time should be mostly defensive - this is the art of not reacting impulsively, of waiting for opportunity. Next there is forced time: the short-term time that we can manipulate as an offensive weapon, upsetting the timing of our opponents. Finally there is end time, when a plan must be executed with speed and force. We have waited, found the moment, and must not hesitate."
ON LONG TIME:
>"When you force the pace out of fear and impatience, you create a nest of problems that require fixing, and you end up taking much longer than if you had taken your time. Hurriers may occasionally get there quicker, but papers fly everywhere, new dangers arise, and they find themselves in constant crisis mode, fixing the problems that they themselves have created."
>"Waiting involves controlling not only your own emotions but those of your colleagues, who, mistaking action for power, may try to push you into making rash moves. In your rivals, on the other hand, you can encourage the same mistake: if you let them rush headlong into trouble while you stand back and wait, you will soon find right moment to intervene and pick up the pieces."
>"You do not deliberately slow down time to live longer, or to take more pleasure in the moment, but to better play the game of power."
>"Do not be a flash in the pan - success that is built up slowly and surely is the only kind that lasts."
ON FORCED TIME:
>"The trick forcing time is to upset the timing of others - to make them hurry, to make them wait, to make them abandon their own pace, to distort their perception of time. By upsetting the timing of your opponent while you stay patient, you open up time for yourself, which is half the game."
>"Making people wait is a powerful way of forcing time, as long as they do not figure out what you are up to. You control the clock, they linger in limbo - and rapidly come unglued, opening up opportunities for you to strike. The opposite effect is equally powerful: you make your opponents hurry. Start off your dealings with them slowly, then suddenly apply pressure making them feel that everything is happening at once."
>"The deadline, then, is a powerful tool. Close off the vistas of indecision and force people to make up their damn minds or get to the point - never let them make you play on their excruciating terms."
>"Going slower also makes what you are doing more interesting - the audience yields to your pace, becomes entranced."
ON END TIME
>"You can play the game with the upmost artistry - waiting patiently for the right moment to act, putting your competitors off their form by messing with their timing - but it won't mean a thing unless you know how to finish."
>"Patience is worthless unless combined with a willingness to fall ruthlessly on your opponent at the right moment. You can wait as long as necessary for the conclusion to come, but when it comes it must come quickly."
Mastering timing has three distinct aspects: deliberate patience, upsetting other's perception of time, and execution.
When we rush, we easily make mistakes. We may not recognize opportunities as the appear. Or perhaps we rush into action when it is more advantageous to bide our time. If only we had waited, we may have encountered a more propitious outcome.
The clearest example of this was the involvement of the United States during both World War 1 and 2. In both cases, America sat back for years while the other warring parties decimated each other. Not only was the United States able to decide the outcome in both wars, but was best positioned to determine the terms of their resolutions. Intelligent actors often wait, bide their time, and only act when it is clearly the best time to intervene - often after everyone else has expended their power and resources. But once the strike, it it with surprising speed.
Controlling other people's perception of time is also a powerful weapon. By either forcing others to wait or to act, we control both their options and (to some extent) their psychological state. This is why being late for a first date is often wise. It makes the other person nervous, wondering if you will actually show up. Their worry and subsequent sense of relief when you arrive is a jarring psychological experience which is often interpreted as attraction. Powerful people make their power known (and felt) by controlling the time of others.
Law 35 is also useful when conducting meetings. Arrange not only a starting time but also an ending time. Regardless if others are late or not, the meeting ends at a predetermined time. This creates a particular implication: ‘my time is important to me and cannot be manipulated. Even if you are late, I still determine when I leave.’
Do not let others impose themselves over you by controlling your time. Doing so is to surrender power itself.
Finally, there is execution. You must possess the ability to act with alarming quickness and efficiency at exactly the right moment. Even if you are patient and able to control your opponent’s timing, this won't matter if you can't take a decisive act which leads to victory.
When the moment is right, you must strike. Do not assume your previous actions assure success. Make a move; deal the final blow.
It is often the end, the final few minutes or seconds, which matter the most. In these cases, you must not hesitate or draw things out. Instead, take bold action.
<Action steps:
a) Practice doing everything slow and deliberate. The way you move, they way you talk, the way you glance around. Never seem jerky or sudden in movement. This will give you an air of dominance and superiority.
b) Recognize that determining timing has serious implications in power. As such, learn to force others to delay or rush as a means of ensuring your own dominance. If someone else is attempting to control your time, refuse to play or otherwise act to put them back into your frame.