>>1320i think the new pronouns thing as far as ive seen isnt a huge change in gender, like they dont seem to represent something specific (yet?) so they come off as all like one thing, the neo-pronouner in-betweens and snowflakes.
But i do think that staying within gender categories and subverting them also isnt a great solution, at least you get a lot of shit as you put yourself in a box only to tell people that actually you're just there to break out of it, like people will still have expectations of you and idk i dont see the point really.
I think ultimately its up to society to decide (not like in a moral way, just in reality thats how it seems). Like gender, similar to property or some other thing that seems real but ends up just being social convention, is just a way of relating to those around you and signalling things about yourself. I think the real way out is gender impartiality, where you understand that there are gendered ways of doing things and looking, and then pick and choose in order to create yourself in the way you want, and also not giving a fuck about intersecting categories, like how a gay man, or an asian woman, or an upper class white tranny or whatever should act, because these also color things. So thats my bid. Stop telling people what you are or what you ought to be called, whether its to subvert a category or conform to it, and dont fall for the "expressing my inner truth", just fucking exist and exist conscious of your ability to self-create and the absurdity of the notion of self-creation (where there is no reason to be one way or another but you choose a direction anyways). At the end of the day gender is a language sort of, and we should be poets i think, and not let restricted language control us.